Posts Tagged ‘losing’

You hear more and more these days that it’s not important whether we win or lose, but that it’s all about how we play the game. Many people in this camp will tell you that it’s bad to keep score because someone will feel bad and develop poor self esteem if they lose. One the other side, you see people talk about how important it is to win, and that nothing else matters. “Do whatever it takes” they say, and “failure is not an option.”

Are either of these correct, or can there possibly be truth in the middle? I believe  the middle ground is where we should be, and that it is important to realize this if we want success in our life, and in that of our whole society.

Not long ago one my good friends  told me something that should have shocked me more than it did. He said that his son was told in school that it is wrong to try to win, that it’s all about having fun and playing nice with others. They don’t keep score in their games. I was told the same thing by my nephew who goes to a completely different school.

This sounds good on the surface; we want to be having fun and we definitely should play nice. But think about what this really teaches our children; the future leaders in our society.
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